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                                             CHILDREN'S FEARS

                         "NOTHING IN LIFE IS TO BE FEARED,
                            IT IS ONLY TO BE UNDERSTOOD"
                                                                                  MARIE CURIE

For most children, being scared of something harmless is a normal childhood phase they will grow out of, with most fears being age-related.

Three year old's tend to be frightened of separation from their parents and of big animals. While those aged five to seven worry about accidents and disasters like floods, lightening strikes or even death.

Children start to take in information but they do not as yet have the tools to manage their own anxiety. Here are some children's most common fears and how to nip them in the bud.

Spiders

A lot of children are frightened of spiders but it only becomes a problem if they won't go into a room in case there is one in there.

A Phobia is treated by gradually exposing the person to the thing they fear, in manageable steps. 

Start by drawing pictures of spiders together, then give the spider a funny face so it looks less scary.

Graduate to photos, then a video, then the real thing but always within the child's control.

The Dark

Being scared of the dark is a normal phase of childhood and you shouldn't make an issue out of it. Leave a night light on instead of insisting they sleep in a dark room. Children will nearly always just grow out of it as soon as they reach seven or eight.

Water

If your child is afraid of bathtime, start by putting just an inch or two of water in the bath and use that to sponge them down. Then gradually increase the amount over time.

Make bathtime as much fun as possible with bubble bath and toys, so your little one starts to associate it with feeling happy and relaxed.

Monsters Under The Bed

Try to deal with it humorously and help your children laugh through it. However, some children won't respond to that.

In that case, you could look under the bed for monsters and tell your child there aren't any there as monsters don't exist.

Encourage your child to think about what could be making the noises they hear at night, like floorboards creaking or the wind. That way, they will stop depending on you to reassure them.

Mystery Monster

You wake with a Start in the still of the night,
With your toes all exposed and your quilt pulled up tight.
With a terrible feeling of doom and unease,
That thumps in your heart and knocks at your knees.

You open your eyes, you stare through the gloom,
Strange shadows loom large, on the walls of your room.
You hear a loud creak, as the monster draws near,
And the more that you listen, the more that you hear.

Then you see its weird shape at the end of your bed,
With its long skinny legs and a great lumpy head.
So you switch on the light and you whisper, Who's there ?
But its only your clothes hanging over the chair.

                                                                          Taken from MONSTER STORIES
                                                  Published by Parragon ISBN 0-75255-671-1

Dogs

Start by looking at pictures of dogs together, then watch TV shows with dogs in them. If you have a friend with a dog, ask them to put it on a lead. Put your child in control and ask them how far away they want to stand.






Over a period of weeks, your child can gradually get closer. Give your child a reward with each step they get closer, making the reward bigger when they finally touch the dog.

Thunderstorms

You need to take a commonsense approach here and explain what the storm is.
Get a book out of the library or look on the internet.






Reassure them the house your in is safe and that tall buildings have lightning conductors, which protect them from being struck

Can Fears Be Inherited ?

We pick up our fears from our parents, even if they try hard not to let us know they're scared. For instance, if you don't like dogs as an adult, you will probably pretend everything is fine in front of your child when you see one but your body language or voice will give a mixed message.

Your child will instinctively get the message that dogs are scary. A parents fears can be sensed from a baby's first weeks of life even in the womb before birth.

If mum is anxious socially, even very young babies can pick up on it. Babies and young children take their cues from their parents and many mistaken beliefs are taken into the young child's subconscious up to the point when their ability to use logic develops.

Mistaken Beliefs

A mistaken belief is information taken into the child's subconscious mind at an early age, when they are unable to argue against it or rationalise it, due to their under developed mind.

The people that hold a powerful position in a child's life such as its parents, siblings, teachers, friends etc can influence that child's behaviour in later life.

As children we are like sponges, absorbing information from as many sources as possible to form the identity that we will later become. If we see our parents arguing and one parent throws something at the other, we assume that this is how we should express ourselves when upset.

As an adult we might find ourselves throwing something at our partner during an argument, afterwards not understanding why we behaved this way. Our mind is using old outdated information, a mistaken belief.

It is very important as parents / adults that we only influence children in a Loving positive way, they need our protection. A young childs mind can be effected by what it absorbs and most issues and problems we experience as adults along with social and relationship problems in general are the result of negative information taken in at a young age

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism, He learns to condemn,
If a child lives with hostility, He learns to fight,
If a child lives with ridicule, He learns to be shy,
If a child lives with shame, He learns to be guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, He learns to be patient,
If a child lives with encouragement, He learns confidence,
If a child lives with fairness, He learns justice,
If a child lives with security, He learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, He learns to like himself,
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, He learns to find Love in the world.

                                                      UK/US 6042 Children Learn © Sam Maxwell 
                                                            published by Scandecor Marketing 
                                                            

                                 "It's important for parents to live 
                                   The same things they teach"

When To Get The Experts In

If a child gets to seven or eight and a fear is affecting their day to day lives, for instance, if it's stopping them playing with friends or going to the park or to school, they might need psychological help, so consult your GP.

Anxiety Care Helpline 0208 478 3400 Monday and Wednesdays 10am-3pm or visit
www.anxietycare.org.uk     

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